Hi people, I am a female who was infected by some jerk who has not told me the truth when asked if he was healthy. I do not want to be that kind of jerk, so I will have to tell a new man in my life, which - miraculously - will probably stay with me after... I want kids and family, but herpes induces limitations on sex life,which I am not sure my future partner will want to bear without having an affair. So I'd like to know: CAN I GIVE ORAL SEX TO MY PARTNER IF I HAVE GENITAL HERPES? How long after the outbreak is cured it is not advisable to have any kind of sex? Thank you.