I found out yesterday my 19 yr old son has herpes. I am absolutely devastated by this news....only slept an hour last night. I am angry and hurt with him that he would put himself at risk. Is this normal a feeling for loved ones? He has been demonstrating self destructive behaviors for many years, just constantly rebelling, and ends up having to pay the consequences. This is a lifetime consequence. I have Lupus and been very sick, one of the symptoms is I am afraid of germs, bacteria, viruses, etc...so now, I am afraid of him. He does not have good hygiene, and I'm fearful that he is going to pass it on to my husband or myself. I want to be supportive to him, but I'm mad, hurt and scared. Any advice please would be much appreciated.