Having a healthy, happy relationship regardless of herpes
You and your partner will need to have open, honest communication about herpes so you can work together to prevent transmission. Your partner will need to feel comfortable telling you when he or she feels an outbreak coming on. Your relationship may benefit as you talk and establish trust.
On the other hand, if you aren't sure about the relationship, or you are uncomfortable with the risk, consider delaying intimacy for a while. Get to know your partner better, and give yourself time to adjust to the idea of herpes. There is no need to rush into a decision.
Keep in mind that all relationships face challenges, many far tougher than herpes. Good relationships stand or fall on far more important issues -- including communication, respect, and trust.
Safer Sex Practices that may help minimize the risk
- Practice non-coital sex (sexual intimacy without penetration) before you are ready to take the relationship further. Use your imagination, there are all kinds of ways to have fun! Just make sure to avoid touching or kissing the affected area when there is any sign of an outbreak (including itching or tingling).
- Use barriers, male and/or female condoms (dental dams).
- Chemoprophylaxis - use a lubricant with nonoxynol, proven to have some virucidal activity. Some people may be sensitive, causing them inflammation, rash or sores. In such cases it might increase likelihood of transmission - so definitely do not use in this case!
- Use a lubricant. This will decrease friction and make the viral particles less likely to adhere to new locations.
- Wash thoroughly afterwards (not the next morning), soap and water will help to remove the virus at the skin's surface, washing with diluted hydrogen peroxide or diluted chlorine bleach should also knock-out the virus.
- Take an antiviral or herbal remedy. The availability of antigen specific transfer factor, immune support (with andrographis) and other immuno-helpers like beta glucan ushers in a new age of prevention.
- Be mindful of contact with the affected area to compromised skin such as cuts, abrasions and other skin conditions that could allow the virus to enter. The virus is more efficient at transmission if there is an opening in the skin.
- Be very mindful and serious about prevention. Practice safer sex methods without exceptions - slipping up on your protocols just once could be a potential problem.
Where to Now?
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