I have been living with Herpes for the past 3 years. I have read some of the posts where a lot of people are asking when and how to tell. I just want to add a note to remember to all of you: Infecting someone with Herpes without their knowledge can fall under assault and battery. Though you may have been with someone for a while. Let you partner know before engaging in any sexual activities because the other peson can turn around and sue if he/she gets infected.